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March 2014 - Sincerity

Denise is an amazing young woman. She is an anchor for the South Salt Lake PAL program. She participates in all activities, and has the best attitude. Whenever the PAL program has a new young person join, Denise introduces herself and helps to make that individual feel welcome. Denise is always willing to participate in new opportunities; she learned to snowboard with the Chill program and was 1 of 4 youth who attended the CAL PAL Leadership Conference. She is an amazing student, with an average GPA above a 3.7. Denise is an incredible part of the boxing and recreation programs at PAL. Denise is an amazing young woman. She is an anchor for the South Salt Lake PAL program. She participates in all activities, and has the best attitude. Whenever the PAL program has a new young person join, Denise introduces herself and helps to make that individual feel welcome. Denise is always willing to participate in new opportunities; she learned to snowboard with the Chill program and was 1 of 4 youth who attended the CAL PAL Leadership Conference. She is an amazing student, with an average GPA above a 3.7. Denise is an incredible part of the boxing and recreation programs at PAL.

 

Sincerity

 

                                                                                                                               

Definition

Having or showing true feelings that are expressed in an honest way; genuine or real; not false, fake or pretended

Quotes

“When pure sincerity forms within, it is outwardly realized in other people's hearts.” -Laozi

“Sincerity increases willingness to care.” -Toba Beta

“Trust is delicate and fragile to gain, with sincerity it leads to the golden foundation for success".” -Akinwumi Jarule

“Sincerity is almost love.” -José Eduardo Agualusa

“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” -Bryant McGill

“Be sincere in your thoughts; Be pure in your feelings. You will not have to run after happiness. Happiness will run after you.” -Sri Chinmoy

Discussion

About Sincerity:

Sincerity of feeling, intent, and presentation touches the hearts of everyone. But what exactly defines sincerity? And how does one achieve it? No other formula exists for sincerity than to be sincere by being genuine, having trust in yourself, and just being yourself.

 

Act the same way alone as you do when in the presence of others.

This is the real you and this is the person that people will warm to and trust. If you try too hard to be what you think other people want to see in you, the result will not be sincere and you will spend a lot of time projecting a persona that is not a real part of yourself.

Do things out of the goodness of your heart

Don't seek a reward or do things to acquire things from people. When you give without expecting anything in return, the giving becomes an act of sincerity and an expression of your genuine concern for and interest in others.

Understand that sincerity comes from the heart.

Whatever you do or say, it is vital to mean to do or say it and to back it up with action. You cannot be sincere when you apologize without peaceful action.

Don't do it or say it, unless you believe it with your heart.

Choose to tell the truth. Speaking and acting from your heart is critical to be sincere. 

Realize that sincerity can make you feel vulnerable.

Opening up to others about your feelings, motives, and aspirations can make you feel vulnerable. If you are forearmed to expect this possibility, then it will come as less of a surprise if people don’t also come from a place of sincerity. Remain calmand non-confrontational when faced with such responses.

Use positive affirmations.

Always seek the good in you, in others, and in situations. Try to place yourself in the other person's shoes to see where they are coming from. When negative connotations arise, use your positive affirmations to override the negative. Sincerity thrives on effort to think positively.

Be genuine and timely in response.

Sincerity is about immediacy, spontaneity, spur-of-the moment responses that come from your genuine self. Listening to your immediate responses can help a person to explore their own sincerity and knowledge of self.

Be hospitable and lack material neediness.

Sincerity is advanced when you are open to having others in your life and when you do not feel a need to compare yourself with what others have and what you do not. Learn to let go of material neediness and learn to open your heart to people and your community. In that way, sincerity will become second nature.

Some Tips:

  • Try volunteering and contributing to the community.
  • SmileIt takes a lot fewer muscles to smile than to frown, and a smile speaks volumes to others about your genuine intent and feelings.
  • Don't worry if you have been inconsistent. Sincerity takes time to nurture.
  • A smile is the same in every language.
  • Get along with the people you can, and stay away from the ones you can't. Keeping a friendship in limbo not only hurts the other person, but yourself as well.
  • Ask yourself how many times you say something or do something and end up feeling a sense of dissonance.
  • Ask yourself if your actions are being done to get noticed or if they're done from the heart.

 “Sincerity is the fulfillment of our own nature, and to arrive at it we need only follow our own true Self. Sincerity is the beginning and end of existence; without it, nothing can endure. Therefore the mature person values sincerity above all things.” -Tzu-ssu

Books to Share

Books to share with your children:

Flower Garden by Eve Bunting

Big Al by Andrew Clements

The Boy Who Cried Wolf: A Tale of Sincerity (Stories to Grow On) by Mary Rowitz

Just Because by Rebecca Elliott

How to Behave and Why by Munro Leaf

In the Workplace

Sincerity in the Workplace

 

Dan Oswald posts “A person who is sincere easily develops trust with his coworkers because he is open and honest even in admitting weakness or vulnerability. In fact, in doing so, his credibility goes through the roof because we all know that no one has all the answers. And anyone pretending that he does loses that credibility because we know he isn’t sincere.

Here’s the thing about sincerity: You can’t fake it. I can’t tell you how to become sincere. In fact, I’m not sure that someone who is insincere can change. But if you’ve been afraid to show sincerity in the workplace, maybe it’s because you think it shows weakness. You’re wrong. Sincerity can be a tremendous asset to you as a leader in an organization. Don’t be afraid to demonstrate your sincerity with your colleagues. You’ll find it makes you a more effective leader.” [1] (For more visit: http://blogs.hrhero.com/oswaldletters/2010/04/29/sincerity-is-strength/ )


[1] Dan, Oswald “Sincerity is Strength” Web log post The Oswald Letter, HR Hero, April 29, 2010. March 10, 2014